~ Do Not Let Obligation Hold You Hostage~

You are not obligated to tell the world what you have going on in your life. There are people who feel like they should know every piece of information that goes on in your life and with your day to day activities. You are under no obligation to disclose anything to anyone. I feel like now that we are in the social media days and it is popular to share our lives with the world that some feel like  sharing is mandatory. It is like some people feel like privacy or picking and choosing what you allow the world to see is a problem. Why is it sometimes frowned upon to be a person who does not feel the need to post often? Why is it a problem when people have private pages and only accept their friends or family members? I see many people make fun or judge these actions but in my opinion I feel the people who are private and choose to only share their moments with a chosen few are awesome.

Being private in a world of overexposure to me means you value your space and memories and the world is not allowed to be in that space and I can indeed respect that! There is no shade or judgement to my public living social media people because I happen to be one of them. I pick and choose what I share but at the same time I give the world a glimpse of my life, my thoughts, my memories. I feel that this topic is a broad one that can be applied anywhere not just for social networks. In school, work, relationships and also with people in your life. Ever notice how when you are in a random place how the “thing to do” is to start up a random conversation with your neighbor. I am so not “that” person because that is the most awkward encounter in life.

To be in line at the grocery store and just spark up a conversation with my line buddy … NOPE not that girl. My mom however she is a social butterfly she is that girl and she loves to meet people and laugh and “work the crowd” she is very bubbly and full of spunk and my son is the same way. I however was born different. I cringe at random conversations with people I do not know. Why? Because I feel like small talk is a way to be nosey and to pass time. I have never felt the need to disclose my personal information to strangers. Hey don’t get me wrong, all encounters I have had with the public are not awkward. I feel like it just depends on the person and the energy that they have and how respectful they are when they approach you. I’ve come in contact with some very nice people in public while waiting in line and having general conversation about the weather or the latest fashion or television show.  That I don’t mind and I will happily have these short conversations with people. 

The encounters that I am speaking of though is the ones that make you feel violated afterwards. When a person is shooting off personal questions like they are unloading bullets in a pellet gun. Not fun! Ever been in line somewhere or at the doctor’s office in the waiting area and someone sparks up a conversation asking you questions like:

·         Are you married?

·         How old are you?

·         How many kids do you have?

·         Want more kids you still young why not?

·         You have an accent where are you from exactly?

·         So where do you work?

It is like some people are human questionnaires and that is awkward to me. The moral of my story is this... whether on social media or in a public place sharing your life is not mandatory and you are not obligated to do so. You do not have to share to the world, what you do not want to share… to the world.